Finding true Love in your life

Here are eight things you must master before you
can invite real love into your life.
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1. Don’t focus on finding a partner. Focus on
building a great relationship with yourself.
If you want anything in life to work out, you must
have a trusting and loving relationship with yourself
first. This is the primary focus in my life coaching
work, because a positive self-image truly paves to
road for any happiness, opportunity, and lasting joy
in life.
Check in with yourself: how do you treat yourself?
How do you speak to yourself? How do you hold
yourself back and why?


2. Replace anxiety with faith.
People who have found real love, didn’t get
permanently caught up in anxiety, believing they wi
never find love. Rather, they remember to trust in
divine timing. Negative, fearful thoughts only
increase anxiety and an anxious mind never speak
nicely to the self.
Your thoughts create your reality, so by thinking
negatively you're essentially manifesting what you
don’t want. Train yourself to think positively,
expecting the good.


3. Believe (and really believe) that you deserve to
be loved.
This is a frequent underlying (often unconscious)
limiting belief that many of my clients carry with
them: fear of not being good enough and not being
love-worthy. It's the number one way in which
many people sabotage themselves and their quest
for love.
If you don’t believe you're love-worthy, why would
anyone else think that you are? You have to shed
this limiting belief and stop sabotaging yourself wit
your thoughts about yourself if you want to find true
love.


4. Learn to receive the love that is offered to you.
It's a bit counter-intuitive, but receiving is a much
more vulnerable act of showing yourself to another
person than giving. You are basically telling another
person, “You make me happy,” which is both a ver
empowering statement to make and one that make
you feel vulnerable.
The question is: can you show gratitude and
pleasure to other people openly and without feeling
ashamed or guilty?


5. Let go of your checklist of must-haves for your
ideal partner.
While it’s good to know what you like and don’t like
you also don’t want to narrow your worldview and
create stubborn tunnel vision. Must-have lists are
formulated from a head space, but the head isn’t
what falls in love or has compassion during
inevitable tough times.
Often, the qualities you will most appreciate and
honor in your partner are the ones you didn’t even
know you needed. Loosen up and trust that life will
send you the love of your life!


6. Give people the benefit of the doubt.
Are you interpreting every ever-so-slightly
confusing signal you get from a potential mate as a
offense to you and a red flag or a sign that they
aren't trustworthy after all? Or are you able to stop
yourself from over-analyzing everything and
believe that the person you have met has their
heart in the right place?
Believing in the good of another person, even if you
have been disappointed, will make your life much
more free and joyful. Don’t let past experiences
determine your future.


7. Become an effective and honest communicator.
You cannot selectively be a good communicator
with some people and a terrible communicator with
others. You are either someone who has the
integrity and the courage to be heard and speak
their mind honestly, or you are hanging on to a
tendency to suppress, avoid, or silence
communication.
The good news is that communication patterns can
be worked on and improved pretty much every
second of your waking life. Ask yourself, "Am I
honest and sincere with myself? Am I expressing
myself in full integrity to what I truly think and feel?

8. Look for good role models.
Role models matter greatly, because we learn from
observing others starting the moment we were
born. Even if you parents weren’t in the greatest
marriage, you can look to other relationships that
you admire and pick out the attributes you like the
most.
When observing couples you respect try and
identify exactly how the couples supports each
other. How do they speak to one another? How do
they show each other love? By asking these
questions, you are essentially increasing your
awareness for the kind of relationships that do
work, rather than having a running list of things you
don’t want in your own love life.
In the comments I’d love to hear from you: what
can you do and improve upon now that will help
make your future relationship bloom freely? I've
seen hundreds of people work on themselves,
change their expectations, and learn to embrace
who they are. I know you can do this too!
Take the first step today!